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Authority issues plague many of us. I am highly suspicious of all authority. There are a few instances that make the exception to the rule, but generally I think that power is a reason to investigate the motives of someone. My own upbringing has a lot to do with the issues I have today, since I grew up with quite a bit of sexism and some rigid nonsensical rules. There was violent insistence on the rules and on the concept that we were a happy family. I don’t think my parents were very happy, and I know I wasn’t pleased with my living conditions during childhood. This social mask imposed to hide the true situation included a strong dress code and many other elements designed to display perfection. I always felt repressed and restrained in various ways. When I was out of my parents’ world I never sought out any status symbols or social signs of belonging. I preferred to be a pleasure-seeking liberated person without the need for social approval. I respected no authority figures of any kind. As I look at it today I see an extreme reaction to rules and regulations, as well as to many institutions.
Trauma lives on in the feelings, thoughts, senses, and memories of everyone. It would be impossible to go through life without any shocking disruptive events. The way we process them depends on our circumstances at the time. If trauma is induced by parent or someone we must depend on for survival we may disassociate from reality in order to survive. Later the trauma continues in the body and the emotions if the appropriate anger is not found and processed for the serious betrayals of the past. Forgiveness is a part of the healing process, but it is not healthy to forgive without recognizing the wrongs and the disrespect we endured in childhood and early adulthood. Our personalities are mostly formed by the time we are 30, although we can have transformative events after that time also. If you draw a timeline of your life and include all the major emotional and physical traumas you have experienced you notice how your current reactive self was formed. We continue to react to the unresolved past, often by rebelling. To heal the trauma and stop the need to react we need to return to the times of greatest stress and damage, acknowledge the ways we were hurt, and come to the rescue of the helpless victim in the story, ourselves. Notice this situation may have been reconstructed a hundred different ways in life. To clean the slate and transform that trauma into understanding we need to look at the truth and take it into our consciousness. To stop repeating patterns that we continue out of reaction to the past we must examine the source and resolve to treat ourselves with confidence and love. We must rebel against unfair and unjust treatment both now and in the past in order to free ourselves from the damage it does.
If I am classified by others I imagine the rebel archetype is used liberally. I have both cast myself in this role, and have been asked to play it. Rebels are catalysts for change. They reject conformity. Steve Jobs made the misfits trendy and to disrupt is now an honored business method. Disobedience or disrespect of authority is not as evil as we are taught by those same authorities. Revolutions are brought about in all corners of the earth by people who are willing to risk and step outside the norm.
Many revolutions in history have been brutal and angry, while some of the grandest have been almost sneaky. The digital revolution has a cutting edge that must be driven by rebels because it takes that spirit to continually disrupt and change the current methods. We may soon have Google glasses and internet TV at home because of the rebellious among us. I have to tend my own rebel, who does not do homework, who procrastinates, and who takes shortcuts. She is not terribly evil, but she does give my teacher archetype a whole lot of flack. If I have an internal war, it is between this teacher and this rebel. They are both persuasive and have great achievements to show for their particular philosophy. Both study and patience and completely out of the ordinary gambles have worked out for me. I need to honor them both because they are sticking with me for the rest of the flight, it seems. The rebel must be unleashed with care and proper consideration for best effect.